We’ve now been on 10 flights with Bodhi and although I know I’ve not broken any records I feel its enough for me to consider myself experienced enough to share some tips and considerations on flying/holidays with babies.
Jack and I have always enjoyed holidays and visiting new places so it was definitely something we wanted to continue even with a baby in tow. We have now enjoyed three 2 week holidays to Spain, a week in Sardinia and a 4 day city break to Copenhagen as well as two long weekends in the U.K. I’ll share below all the advice I can offer based on what has made our trips run smoothly.
The 4-6 month window. This is by far the golden time to fly/holiday with a baby so plan a holiday at this time if you want it to be as easy as possible! At this age babies are still sleeping quite a bit and will probably fall asleep easily anywhere. They’re not on the move so there’s a lot less chasing around/saying no! They’re only consuming milk so you don’t have to bother bringing or finding food for them. The hardest thing I found on holiday with Bodhi at this age was just the juggling of having him on my lap whilst trying to eat out at restaurants. He was too small for a high chair and unless moving or asleep he wasn’t keen on just sitting in the pram so we just had to take it in turns holding him whilst the other inhaled their food. Aside from this it’s just having the confidence to go and take the plunge on your first family holiday!
Air BnB/holiday homes. What you need is a baby friendly home away from home complete with a kitchen for all the food prep/bottle washing/milk storing etc. Also a bath comes in handy, a high chair, a cot and having a separate bedroom for the baby. We’re yet to stay in a hotel abroad with Bodhi because Air bnbs/holiday homes are cheaper and tick more boxes for what we need. We’ve stayed in hotels with Bodhi in the U.K. and being confined to one room just isn’t ideal when it comes to space and sleeping arrangements. You can be so fussy and selective on air bnb and still find something that suits. We’ve loved the fact that if we do decide Bodhi needs an early night that once we’ve put him to bed we can still enjoy our evenings like we would at home without disturbing him. Similarly you’re not in a hurry to get out of the door because you’ve got cabin fever stuck in 1 room especially if you’re staying somewhere with it’s own outdoor space etc. I also find feeding Bodhi easier at home. I appreciate not everyone wants to be cooking on holiday but children’s menus are limited to chicken nuggets or sausages and chips so we can give him a better variety at home and he’s less distracted so will eat more. Some restaurants have stupid high chairs too which defeat the whole purpose of them being able to sit there safely and make me stressed for the entire meal!
Let them explore before the flight. My aim on every flight with Bodhi is that he will sleep for some of it. I’ve suspended naps and kept him out of his pushchair for this to happen and so far it’s worked on all but two flights which were the flights we did with him this month. With Bodhi being 16 months he just too alert to switch off for a nap whilst there is so much going on. In an effort to get all of Bodhi’s wriggles our before boarding we’ve let him crawl/walk all over the airport and I know that might scare some when you think how filthy the floor is but we just wipe him down after and if it means he’ll sit still/sleep on the flight I don’t mind! Another thing which we do to assist Bodhi in getting off to sleep is to give him some milk on take off. It’s recommended that they suck something to help their ears equalise so although Bodhi doesn’t have milk during the day he does if we’re on a flight. He also has his dummy, usually he’ll only have this for naps/bedtime but on a flight it helps with the sleeping or just keeps him calm and still.
In flight entertainment. So apart from 1 flight where Bodhi slept the whole duration he’s usually awake for some of the flight so entertainment is needed. When he was 4 months a few little teethers/rattles did the trick. As he’s got older we now bring a little bag of goodies; it’s mostly ‘lift the flap’ books because he loves those and any other pocket sized toys which are his favourites at the time but I also buy something new and give it to him on the plane. Stickers is another good one but he’s only just into that now at 16 months. If he’s bored of all that then we will bring out the phone/iPad with some downloaded favourites from CBeebies and that always passes a good 20 mins! On every flight we get out of our seats to let him have a little run up and down the aisle which so far most other passengers have been lovely about and sometimes we can let them entertain him for a minute! Another thing to bring to occupy them once they’re at the right age; snacks! Opt for mess free snacks like crisps/fruit bars/rice cakes.
Be prepared for a different holiday! Regardless of the age of your baby/child a lot of your holiday will be catered to them. For me this has meant a lot less sunbathing, not managing to read any books, early nights and early mornings. There will be certain activities that you will miss out on which child free you would’ve definitely done. When we were in Sardinia I would’ve loved the go island hopping on a boat but it was all day and it just didn’t seem fair/suitable for Bodhi and we would’ve had to take it in turns going in the sea on our own anyway. The places and times you go to eat will mostly revolve around your little ones routine and needs. I’m very strict about Bodhi’s routine and it still applies on holiday. I won’t keep him out late at night and I prefer that he has a nap in his cot. When we went to Copenhagen we would be out all day so Bodhi would have to nap in his pram but he’d only manage 45 mins compared to 2 hours in the cot and he’d become cranky and difficult because of it. When we’ve gone to beach destinations we’ll usually go out in the morning for an hour to the shops/market/park etc. We then get home around 11 and put Bodhi down for a nap, he’ll usually have 2 hours which is our window for chilling/sunbathing! When he wakes up we’ll head straight out for a nice big lunch and then spend the rest of the afternoon at the beach. We then come home for 6pm to cook Bodhi’s tea and then put him to bed whilst we then cook our own food or get a takeaway, enjoy some wine on the terrace, have a nice chilled evening. Some nights we will go out to eat but again it is based around Bodhi so whereas in the past we would’ve probably gone out for a cocktail at 7 and then dinner at 8 we’re usually asking for the bill at 8. The best bit about eating earlier is that you always get the best table because nobody else is there! I see other parents out late/having drinks with their little one fast asleep in the pram and I know we could do that but we’re not big drinkers so it’s not a necessity for us to do that. Plus I have also seen parents wrestling with over tired screaming toddlers in a bar and I just don’t want that stress!
Invite others on holiday. If you can or have willing volunteers an extra set of hands when you’re away helps a lot! Jack and I have been lucky that whenever we’ve spent time in Spain either my dad or jacks parents have joined us for some of the holiday. The biggest help is probably at the airport because between 2 of us we’re usually juggling Bodhi, hand luggage, a case, a pram and a car seat (we always hire a car). It’s also a help when you’re away though; Bodhi loves his grandparents probably more than he loves me and jack so it’s nice that he gets to bond with them and make memories and not get bored of just me and jack. Also it has meant that jack and I have been able to go in the sea together (simple things I know!) or go out for a meal and have a little date night. The only downside to holidaying with others is that it’s hard to keep everyone happy. I often feel guilty that I’ve made everyone eat tea at 6pm when not everyone was hungry or saying no to staying out for a drink because of wanting to get back. Luckily we’ve been away with our very understanding and easy going parents but I wonder how we’d struggle if we were to holiday with other families and other babies and trying to suit everyone’s own routines. When we have had our time as just the 3 of us it has been very relaxed and easy to just do whatever suits us and Bodhi and not worry about frustrating others.
Choose your destination wisely. As I’ve already mentioned your holidays will be different to what they used to be and considerations for where you’ll go probably will too. I know there are some amazing travel mums out there showing that backpacking in India with a 3 children under 5 can be done but not without a lot of stress and hassle in my opinion! We’ve longed for and thought about going long haul to the Caribbean but have decided against it because of the long flight and then time difference to adjust to. I’m sure we could cope and it would all work out fine as I know others that have managed it but we’re all for making our life easier. We have therefore chosen destinations within 3 hours flight time from the U.K. this also means the time zone adjustment is 1-2 hours at most which is no problem. Beach holidays are the easiest with Bodhi because he loves the sea and the sand but we’ve gone in the months of April, May & September when it’s not too hot. When choosing an air bnb we’ve always made sure we’re within walking distance to some amenities and that there is a pharmacy or hospital nearby because you just never know and these things do become very important with a little one in tow. We chose to do a city break in Copenhagen because we had heard how family friendly it was as a city and we weren’t disappointed. The attractions were enjoyable and easy for Bodhi which made it all the better for us and I’d definitely recommend it as a great city break option.
So, whilst holidays will not be quite the same whether it’s because you won’t be able to lounge on a sun bed all day or because you won’t be able to go zip lining in the jungle your holidays will remain memorable. They’ll be filled with more love and more laughter and there will be special firsts to celebrate and cherish. I think if you’re sensible about where you go and what you do there that you will be rewarded with a wonderful, stress free, enjoyable holiday.
To finish up here are just a few extra tips/tricks
◦ Keep your pram with you through the airport and hand it over when boarding the plane. You’ll appreciate being able to plonk baby in there whilst juggling security checks.
◦ Take a lightweight stroller ideally a cheap one that you won’t mind getting battered in transit and so that’s it’s easier for you to lug around.
◦ Use a backpack for hand luggage. Being hands free helps!
◦ Bring the comforter/blanket/favourite toy to help them feel secure.
◦ Let them have a sit/play in their new cot before you expect them to go to sleep in it so that it becomes familiar. You could take your own bedsheets from home that they’ve slept in so that it smells like home.
◦ There doesn’t seem to be much of a limit on the number of snacks you can take on board when flying with babies so go for it!
◦ If you’re bottle feeding take an extra bottle just so that you’re prepared; you never know with delays or what if you’re baby is only calmed by a feed. When Bodhi was 4 months he was having a bottle every 3 hours so I took 2 bottles of cooled boiled water and 2 pots of measured out formula so that his milk would be ready in an instant. At security they will just scan it. Since Bodhi has been drinking cows milk I use the ready made growing up milk cartons on flights.
◦ Be prepared with all of your baby items such as formula and nappies. We’ve always been close to supermarkets and have been able to buy wipes and nappies abroad with no trouble so if you don’t want to fill your case with all the nappies just make sure there is somewhere nearby where you can stock up and be prepared it will be more expensive. They have formula abroad too but not the same brands so again do research to make sure you’re getting the equivalent. We got caught out when we needed more formula for Bodhi; he was on anti reflux formula and not all pharmacies stocked this when we did find one it set us back 42 euros!!
◦ When flying with babies most airlines should allow you to take 2 baby items (travel cot, pushchair, car seat) in addition to your luggage and baby also gets hand luggage too. The less you have to carry the better though so we usually just stick to a back pack each. Everything I carry is for Bodhi and jack has the electricals and any other essentials. Be organised and have everything you need to get out for security in an accessible place and ideally all bundled together.
◦ Take a blanket in hand luggage so that you can plonk your little baby on it on the floor for them to have a kick/stretch/play.
◦ Recreate the same bedtime routine/environment as much as possible. This will probably only be important to you if you have a sensitive sleeper like us! As it took us 8 months for Bodhi to sleep through we found a routine that worked and so we do exactly the same wherever we go. It helps baby feel secure even though they are in a different environment so if you can keep some things consistent they’ll hopefully settle easier. We usually have a disrupted night on Bodhi’s first night somewhere new but then he’s fine.
- Expect the worst. Whilst I’m usually of a positive mindset when it comes to flying I tend to psyche myself up for it being hard work and stressful and it never is as bad as I’m thinking. Be prepared for the worst and then it won’t be so stressful!